Cory Minter: Hi. My name is Cory Minter and I’m the president of Trinity Employment Specialists. Trinity is a staffing company, we staff in both the Tulsa staffing and Oklahoma City markets. We staff in the medical field, in customer service, in accounting and finance, and in the banking industries. I want to tell you just a couple of stories. Not long ago, I had done and I’ve written a book about this is well, and a book is going to be out, hopefully, very soon. I’ve got several things that I’m working on, try to get that knocked out. I’ve spoken about this in two or three different areas. I want to share with you just a couple of things that I’ve learned. I want to share just a couple of stories with you that I thought were really interesting. I have one of my very best friends and he is one of the top producers at his company. He is a sales engineer for some of the largest companies including Disney, CBS, NBC. He is got some of the largest groups around for the U.S. government he does support for. He is one of the top-level individuals around and he manages a team outside of him. In his company he leads one of the most successful teams in the company’s history. There’s something interesting that happened to him that I thought was worth bringing up, especially when you’re trying to work out your own fears and insecurities within your career. This was it. He had worked at an off-site location, he worked out of his home here in Tulsa staffing Oklahoma, but his main core office is in Austin. The corporate office is far away from him. He only has the opportunity to speak with them over the phone.
Over time, when he didn’t hear from his corporate office, he shared with me one day and he said, “You know when I never hear from our corporate office. I just start thinking, “Oh my goodness, I might be doing something wrong”. H even went sometimes as far to say that he was concerned that they might, actually, terminate him. He is one of the top producers in his entire company, but yet he has this fear. He leads one of the most successful teams in a huge company, but yet he has this fear. Every time he doesn’t hear from his corporate office, his mind starts to wonder, “What am I doing wrong? What could be happening here?” Over time this has really bothered him and it doesn’t matter that he knows that he’s doing this, it still happens. Of course, whenever he goes back to the corporate office and he goes there about once every other month. And he realizes, “Oh my Gosh, they’re celebrating me, everything is fine.” But he spent almost two months having these crazy thoughts in his head. I really think that’s unfortunate. I have a point later on about Tulsa staffing.
I have an employee who really tends to do a good job. She works really hard for us, she does a good job with what she does. But yet, one single thing goes wrong and I had a conversation with her yesterday. She was just like, “With this one thing that I did wrong, I’m just really concerned that you’re going to fire me.” We weren’t ever thinking that at all. We were just thinking we needed to correct that one problem in her mind for the past two, three, four weeks. She had thought she was just on the chopping block and she’s getting ready to be fired in it. It was really bothering her. She didn’t know exactly what to do. She was really, really scared. All of these things went on in life. It got me to thinking how so many people do this. How many people are always fearful for something. The fear that they experience in their head, it actually– it’s just not justified. Their mind takes it in area where it is really and truly an unjustified fear. Some people live their lives as one big false alarm, just like these two individuals did. Both of them have had a false alarm for a lengthy period of time. In their mind and in their heart and in their soul and who they are, they are really, truly concerned and moved and scared.
In some cases, probably terrified. It made me think that people need to be reminded regularly that things are not nearly as bad as what your mind generally conjures them up to be. Of course, in any kind of situation you know that there are certain circumstances that happen. They do happen people where you do need to be concerned. But I would be willing to say that roughly about 90 to 95% of the things that people worry, have anxiety over and all sorts of things like that, it’s just not nearly as bad of the situation as what they’re making it out to be in their mind. It reminds me a long time ago when I was– I’m a father of a seven-year-old daughter. I had the opportunity to take her to Silver Dollar City. I’ll tell you what, to all the fathers out there, I bet you’ve had type of the experience when your kid has the opportunity to go– if you’re going to a theme park, when they go from riding the kids rides to where you can go and watch them ride the big rides. It’s quite a different adventure. As a father, you start to see that, “Oh my goodness, things are changing, I might be able to do some of the things that I like to do.” This is exactly where I was at Tulsa staffing.
My daughter, I know, is tall enough now to ride the big roller coaster rides rather than spend all day long in that dadgum kitty area. Riding horses and small little things that bounce around. It’s great for the kids at that time in their life, but if you are dad and you’re adventurous, it will drive in the ground. But now, all of a sudden, I’ve got a daughter who is big enough to ride the big roller coaster ride. I knew this before we went, because I knew she had grown and I remembered how many inches it was and I measured her and we were good. I went and I started using every negotiating and selling technique that I knew to talk to her about how fun is to ride the large roller coaster rides. The reason I needed to sell her on it, is because she was literally terrified of them. There was no way she was ever going to go ride these things. I knew that if I did not prepare her in advance and get her ready for riding a roller coaster ride. That was a big one. She would get there and there would just be no chance. She would throw a fit and it wouldn’t be worth it, and it would make the entire vacation miserable if I forced her to go. I didn’t force her to go, I wanted to make it her idea. I spent all this time trying to get her ready for this. I also kind of bribed a teddy bear, if she did it. But I made a deal with her that she would ride, I can’t remember, it’s like five or six roller coaster rides with me. She agreed to it, we got there, and we got in front of the first roller coaster ride-
Cory Minter: -and she’s like, “Daddy, I don’t know that I want to do this.” You could see it in her eyes, she was scared. When she looked up at that roller coaster, she could see how big it was, and she could see how fast it went, and she could see how far she would drop, and it just terrified her. The reason was, was because she had no idea what was coming next. She didn’t know what was going to happen. She didn’t know exactly what she was going to experience, but she toughed through it. I’m really proud of her. She got on something called the powder keg. Now, this particular roller coaster is something that starts off at zero and goes to probably about 60 miles an hour in, I’m guessing, about two seconds. It is really fast. It shoots you over this thing you feel like you coming out of your seat, and it is one of the most intense roller coasters that you could ever go ride or at least that I’ve ridden so far, it’s a lot of fun Tulsa staffing.
But I wish I could show you a picture of her face before she got on there, and the fear that she was experiencing because of the unknown. Then, fast forward to literally a minute after she got off of the roller coaster, and it was complete and total joy. Knowing that, she couldn’t wait to get back on it again, and so the point that I’m trying to make here is, that the stuff that goes on in our head sometimes is so amplified in the negative realm that it stops people from being able to see their potential, because they never allow themselves to get on the roller coaster ride to see whether it’s good or bad.
They never take the journey, they never give themselves a shot, they never throw their name in the hat at trying to move in that direction. Just like my daughter learned that day, is that these big huge roller coasters weren’t that bad. Just like the things that you’re dealing with maybe even right now, this big huge problem or roller coaster, in this scenario, is probably not that bad. Most likely, what you have in your head as to how it’s going to work out, especially if you’re thinking negatively, your scenario, it’s much worse in your head than what the real scenario is. I think a lot of people get stuck into thinking that life happens to us, and I almost wonder if it’s not completely different. Life happens for us.
In all of these things that are problems, that are created, they happen for us so that we can learn and move on with Tulsa staffing.
But the big thing, and the big point that I want to make to you today is, that if you’re going through some huge struggle, and in your mind you’re starting to imagine what the outcomes might be, I want to propose to you that most likely your scenarios are much worse than what the reality is going to be. I hope that these stories have helped you. We’ve gone from a big time professional, all the way up to a seven year old riding a roller coaster, and we all do the same things. You’re have to manage your imagination or it will start to manage you. I hope that this has helped you in your week this week. Thank you so much. My name is Cory Minter. Please call us at Trinity, if you need anything. +9186222588. Thank you.